Non-Violent Communication (NVC) is a four-step method that enable us to empathize with another human being, whoever that person might be. We achieve that by connecting with their needs and feelings without judgment or assigning blame. This is fully aligned with the Aikido principles.
Aikido is not a method to fight and defeat the enemies, it is a way to reconcile the world and make the whole human race into a big family.Morihei Ueshiba – Ô-Sensei
You are mistaken if you believe that budo means having opponents and enemies, being stronger and defeating them. There are no enemies nor opponents for true budo.Morihei Ueshiba – Ô-Sensei
A mind to serve universal peace among all peoples is required for Aikido, not a mind that wishes to become stronger or a mind that has the intention to defeat an opponent.Morihei Ueshiba – Ô-Sensei
Sometimes, even when we are committed to a peaceful resolution, verbal or physical acts of aggression are unavoidable. In such situations, we have two choices: receive or respond. Based on NVC and Aikido principles, our response can always lead to harmony, no matter the aggression.
When we practice the protective use of force, we focus on life or the rights we are trying to protect… When we hold on tight our child that inadvertently tried to run into the street, we are not punishing him, our sole intention is to keep him safe from harm. The assumption is that harmful behaviour comes form lack of knowledge.
Punitive actions, on the other hand, are based on the assumption that people have bad behaviours because they are bad themselves and must be punished in order to regret and change.Marshall Rosenberg – Founder of NVC
When we practice Aikido, each movement or technique should be executed with the protective use of force. The intention is not to hurt or subdue the attacker, but blend and neutralize.
Before everything else, you will need to perceive the other person’s feelings. It’s not a matter of intellectual understanding… even if you have different worldviews, you will avoid annoying the other person. You will know what are his characteristics. As well as you will perceive the flow of energy through the techniques, in individual relationships try to notice where the interests reside and go from there. That is exactly how the Aikido techniques work. If you want to apply that in your personal relationships, the first thing you need to do is to find out what makes the other person satisfied, then give it to him.Gozo Shioda Sensei – Founder of Yoshinkan Aikido